Is It Advisable To Wash The Vagina With Soap?

Growing up, we’ve known about our vaginas for some time and we have learnt how it miraculously cleans itself. How beautiful! But while we were learning all of those fun facts, it necessarily didn’t negate years and years of training and paranoia that our vagina could literally get to a point where it smelled bad.
According to a research carried out by the Special Institute of Gynaecologists, the vagina is self cleansing and introducing any foreign substance down there, including soap, could lead to infection.

Personally, I think there's no harm washing the outer part of the vagina with soap and i've been doing that for some time now with no infection. What do you think?

A Message From Tyler Perry...

The other day, I got this email from Tyler Perry, as part of his regular outgoing emails to his fans. I'm sharing it today because it met me at a time when I needed the comfort and I do believe someone is in need of that comfort tonight. Also, remember that life is a journey and only you can tell your story. Read the message below

SAD: RIP Muna Obiekwe

Nollywood and Nigeria was thrown into mourning yesterday, over the demise of one of their most prolific actor, Muna Obiekwe. He died of Kidney Failure, after his inability to raise money for his dialysis. May his soul rest in perfect peace. Bye Muna!!!

Bela's Corner: Joint Account vs Individual Account

Recently, I was present at a couple's counselling section and I can say, it was quite an interesting one. The Counsellor asked the soon-to-be-married couple what their opinion was on having a "joint account" as opposed to an "individual account". Continue...

Bela's Corner: Can a Husband Rape His Wife?

Happy New Year everyone! This is technically my first post this year, and it centres around a very sensitive topic most married couples are afraid to discuss, particularly in Africa. We have read cases about 'Rape' and what constitutes 'Rape'. So, my question to you today is, "can a husband rape his wife, or rather, can a forceful sexual intercourse between a married couple be considered "Rape"?...Do leave your comments below and thanks for the love.

Farewell 2014...Welcome 2015!

There is so much I want to share with y'al, but my Internet is so slow that i'm afraid I would smash my laptop before I finish. I had to do a lot of soul searching this year, cos it felt I lost track of "me". Don't worry, y'al will get to experience me in 2015 as my journey unfolds. For now, sit back and enjoy the rest of the year. Also, take time out to reflect on this year and decide on the changes you want to make. I'm not big on "New year resolutions" but one thing i'm not dwelling on next year, is the mistakes of 2014. See y'all in 2015 and remember that I love and appreciate y'al. *kisses*


NB: Fear is the only thing that can stop your dreams if you allow it to...

Spread Love: Merry Christmas

Merry christmas to you!!! 

HNM: WELCOME TO DECEMBER...

This year have been bittersweet for me but in all, I'm extremely grateful for everything. It's the last month of the year, and I personally tagged it "The Month of Appreciation"... My sincere appreciation goes to my Maker, Saviour and King; my Parents; Friends; and all Belarians. Enjoy this month and remember "be kind to one another" in Ellen's voice.

Question: What Makes A Woman Wife Material?!

Culled from MommyNoire.com

I've spoken with several men of all ages, races and backgrounds and oddly--or obviously--enough, they typically want the same thing in a wife. The key word here is wife. As one guy put it: "There are some things that you like because they're exciting and fancy but that doesn't mean you want to keep them forever..." He went on to use this analogy: "Just because you are dying to rent the red sports car doesn't mean you want to own it." So, when it comes to wives--the woman a man chooses to be worthy of his last name--there are a few things most men (over 90 percent!) look for. On a recent episode of R.E.A.L. Single Wives TV, Charlie Ervin shared three characteristics of a woman who's wife material:

Bela's Corner: Why Do Men Find It Difficult To Forgive A Woman That Cheated?!

Some days back, I came across an article about a 99 year-old man divorcing his wife of 77 years after finding out that she cheated on him over 60 yrs ago. For a lady, it won't mean anything since it was a long time ago, although it shouldn't be with her best-friend. While there are countless examples of women taking men back and forgiving them after they've cheated, why does it appear to be so hard for men to do the same? I understand men and women are different creatures but why is it so hard for men to forgive these type of offenses? Do you think that men do forgive more often than we know of and they just don’t talk about it like women do?