Sunday, 24 November 2013

Bela's Corner: Should A Man Love A Woman More In A Relationship?

In recent times, you get to hear ladies say "I want a man that would love me more than i love him" but then it poses the question of "What do you measure love with?". None of us are strangers to relationships in which we may have given more than the other person. To ever say that one person should love one more than the other only speaks to a paranoia we have. We have a paranoia of not wanting to experience that hurt again. In that mindset, we formulate defensive schemes like this. Either we think of it ourselves, or our elders lend their two cents on the issue. Regardless of the source, this idea comes from a place where maybe too much thinking is going on. Sometimes it does pay to experience new relationships in the moment. Give new experiences a fair chance. It’s the only way to remain fair to your partner.

For example, if you ask a happily married couple who loved who more, they wouldn’t have an answer. I know what it is to be in love. At no time while being in love did I have a chance to think if I loved my man more than he loved me. It was irrelevant. I simply knew I loved and that I loved as hard as I knew how to. For a woman to say that a man should love her more says to me that she’s pulling back, vice versa.

Saturday, 16 November 2013

Hell No: Woman Allows Her Father Walk Her Down The Aisle 6 Years After He Raped Her.

Meet Sharisse T. Smith, a 24-year-old lady who shares her story on why she asked her father to give her away at her wedding, six years after he raped her. 

"I was only a child when my fixation with creating the perfect picture began. I would watch as my father, a freelance photographer, created works of art out of imperfect people through still photos. At thirteen, I’d wanted to have my own portraits taken. One Saturday, while my mother was at work, my father set up the photo shoot in our dining room, took a few pictures of me and called it a success. Then he said extra shots were needed in his bedroom. Then he raped me.
A week later, I told my mother what my father had done to me and she confronted him. He denied it at first but later confessed. The three of us went to see a therapist together and she concludeded that my father was sorry, he would not hurt me again and that keeping our household “stable” was the best way for us to heal. Afraid to be alone, my mother agreed. So we continued to live together as one of the few nuclear African American families in our neighborhood--a pretty picture." CONTINUE

Monday, 11 November 2013

New Music Alert: Latest Nigerian Gospel Party Mix by DJ Ebis

This is a 60 minutes Non-stop mix of Nigerian Gospel songs that can keep a party going. It features works from over 25 artistes. This mix was put together by Ebiseri 'DJ Ebis' Aginighan (UK Based Nigerian Producer) with the aim of showcasing the various gospel artist in Nigeria.

Friday, 1 November 2013


Welcome to the beautiful month of November...I'm so grateful for the grace to be alive this morning and to witness this new month. Looking back from January, I can say "it can be only God". I'm happy cos this month I get to celebrate two wonderful people in my life. So my word for you today, appreciate those around you everyday, tell them how much they mean to you because you'll never know when they just might depart this earth. Also, Love yourself enough to love others!
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