Bela's Corner: Dealing With Financial Abuse in a Relationship

Most people experience different forms of abuse in relationships and regardless of the extent of the abuse, it's best to seek help, instead of hiding under the umbrella of "s/he will change" or "s/he still loves me". Financial Abuse is the most common form of abuse in Africa and it usually serves as one link to the chain of physical or emotional abuse already present in the relationship. The National Network to End Domestic Violence stated in an article that “the forms of financial abuse may be subtle or overt but in general, include tactics to limit the partner’s access to assets or conceal information and accessibility to the family finances.” Continue

Nigeria: PDP and APC Argue Over Seized $5.7 Million in South Africa

Shortly after the seizure of $9.3 million by the South African Government, another $5.7 million was also confiscated yesterday. The $5.7m for the purchase of arms by Nigeria has sparked off heated argument between the ruling Peoples Democratic Party, PDP, and the opposition All Progressives Congress, APC. While the APC accused President Jonathan of embarrassing the country in global community, the PDP has declared that it is solidly behind the president.

Bela's Corner: Which Would You Rather Have In A Relationship- Love, Trust or Money.

Unconditional love is the strongest force in the universe, it can cross dimensions, it cannot be broken, a parent can die and you will still love them. A baby in the mother's womb is already loved the day she finds out she's pregnant - whether or not he/she is born, she will always love him/her.. If a beloved master dies, a dog will lie down and die shortly afterward. If a dove is killed by a car, the mate will stand quietly by until it starves to death and dies too. Money has power on the earth, but is not eternal, it's material. When the man with money dies, his power is lost. The power of love is never lost. Trust, love, virtues and values are spiritual and not bound by physical/material laws. Truth always stands in the end, it has a way of making itself known. Trust is the key that binds Love and Money together, and without love you can't truly trust someone. 

So, which would you rather have in your relationship?!

Lamar Odom Begs To Film Another Reality Season With Khloe Kardashian

According to HollywoodLife, Lamar has resorted to winning back his estranged wife through their hit show Khole and Lamar.

Lamar Odom, 34, is reportedly changing his life and habits in hopes that Khloe Kardashian, 30, will reunite with him. Now, HollywoodLife.com has learned that Lamar thinks doing another TV show with Khloe “would be good therapy” and could “save their marriage.”

Beyonce's Mum Finally Reveals Details on Her Divorcing Matthew Knowles(Beyonce's Dad)

Tina Knowles was recently the keynote speaker at a luncheon. She gave her personal testimony, including being the fifth child born to 44-year-old parents and how her parents died shortly after she married. Can you believe she started having matrimony-dom problems before Solange was even born? And she stuck it out til Bey and Solo were grown! Tina reveals how difficult it was getting divorced at 58-years-old and finally moving on to happiness. Click here for more details...

Kelly Rowland Poses Nude To Celebrate Her Pregnancy on Elle Magazine

Kelly Rowland has given us all the fit inspiration necessary during her pregnancy, but now she's giving us even more. The 33-year-old sultry songstress sat down with Elle Magazine and shared her excitement as well as what she's looking forward to post-pregnancy (new music). From beauty to balance, this haute mom is giving us the scoop while capturing the moment with amazing shots by Lance Gross. “I can’t wait until he gets here. I just have a couple more weeks. I’m excited to bring a child into the world, and sharing that experience with my husband is probably the most beautiful part,” Rowland told Elle. Continue to view pix...

Bela's Corner: Can One Be In Love With Two People?

As someone who uses and appreciates social media, I must say that the memes that folks in my feed post daily usually amuse me. However, there are some that also enlighten, or simply make me think. One that I read recently said “If you find yourself having to choose between two people who you love, choose the second one, because if you were in love with the first one, you never would have fallen for the second.” While that seems to make sense, I can’t help but wonder if a person should choose either – because are you really in love if you have to choose?

Why Are We Still Here, Nigeria?

A country that makes $224 million per day from the sale of oil and producing 2.4 million barrels of oil per day(selling the oil at N93.61 per barrel) has no business being poor.“This daily income from oil gives Nigeria 81 billion dollars or N12.8 trillion per annum. It is sad that Nigeria remains the 20th hungriest nation and the 26th poorest country in the world. If our budget for year 2014 is N4.6 trillion and our annual income from oil alone is N12.8 trillion, what business have we going out to borrow a single dollar from outside. The sum of one billion dollar loan approved by the Senate for President Goodluck Jonathan to buy weapons to fight Boko Haram was therefore, a bad adventure.

Nigeria: Half Naked Women Confront Governor Yero of Kaduna State

On Monday, Governor Mukhtar Ramalan Yero of Kaduna State and his entourage were on their way to Fadan Karshi, in Sanga Local Government Area of Kaduna State to pay a condolence visits to the little town that had come under several invasion by suspected Ansaru Islamic terrorists, said to have disguised as Fulani gunmen.

The governor had come under criticism for allegedly refusing to visit villages in southern Kaduna where mass killings in the past two years of his government have attracted global media coverage. According to eye witness accounts from Fadan Karshi, where the governor was received at

Bela's Corner: Do Men Lose Respect For Women After First Date Sex?!

A must read! I saw this post from a guy on MadameNoire.com and i couldn't wait to share it with y'all....

At some point during Steve Harvey’s “reign of terror,” there was an intense debate on the politics of when a woman should feel comfortable enough to sleep with a man of her choosing. The rhetoric at that time period stated a woman should enforce a 90-day rule in order to not lose the respect of the man she wanted to sleep with. The rule was also suggested to allow a woman time to properly assess whether the man in question actually liked her for her, or just liked her for sex. I was a relatively young lad at the time thinking to myself, “do mean really disrespect women if they sleep with them on the first date?” The short answer, per usual, is it depends on the man in question, but it bears writing that I have never actually seen this line of thinking in action. CONTINUE

SMH: Nick Cannon Removes Mariah's Tattoo

Celebrities should know better than to tattoo their spouse's name on their body because they usually don't hold up the "forever" BS in their marriages. I knew this union wasn't going to last, particularly when they had to renew their vow every year "ain't nobody got time for that". Anyway, Soon after meeting and falling head-over-heels in love, Nick Cannon made the decision to get Carey’s first name tattooed on his back. As we know, it wasn’t a little ‘ol thing. It was pretty massive. As for Carey, she got a much smaller tattoo on her back with a butterfly and the initials “MC.” According to the singer, it was supposed to stand for “Mrs. Carey”. While the tattoos were a symbol of their love for one another, Cannon seems to be ready to move on completely at this point, because as TMZ pointed out, he has already changed the “Mariah” tattoo to something totally different. A cross. see pic after the cut

Question: Should He Defend You Against His Mother?

Ladies, imagine a situation where your soon-to-be mother-in-law doesn't like you, and she has made it very clear that you are a threat to her relationship with her son. If an argument ensued between you

Bela's Corner: Breakup Commandment To Live By...

Thou shalt not do any of this when it’s over or you’ll find yourself in relationship purgatory

1. Thou Shall not drunk dial i.e don't call when you're drunk.
2. Thou shall not backslide; no going back cos you're afraid to start all over.
3. Thou shall not vent on facebook or any social network.
4. Thou shall not be "just a friend" cos trust me you don't want to hear about your replacement.
5. Thou shall not rebound cos you will be emotionally needy.
6. Thou shalt not eat your feelings instead work it off.
7. Thou shalt not air your ex's dirty laundry
8. Thou shalt not get revenge
9. Thou shalt get BUSY.
10. Thou shall not frustrate your friends with the breakup details.
11. Thou shall not put all the blame on your ex.
12. Thou shall not pretend you're fine.
13. Thou shall not give up on LOVE.

SMH: Delta State Governor Chilling With Ja Rule And Ashanti Amid Poor State Development

It's a shame that the Governor of a state can so lavishly expend the resources of a state for his own personal gain whilst his people wallow in abject poverty. There's no good road in the whole of Delta State; yet my Honourable Governor thought it wise to rather bring  American crooner Ja Rule and Ashanti over to entertain us. My heart bleeds for my State... 

Happy 54th Independence Nigeria and Welcome "October"...

I'm usually very happy when it''s time to celebrate my country's independence but for some reasons, I'm just not enthused about it. I believe in my country and I do know it would get better some day; probably when the money-hungry politicians are dead. Well, it's a new month and I pray for it to be fruitful to both you and your loved ones. Remember, love is all you need...