Bela's Corner: Should A Man Love A Woman More In A Relationship?

In recent times, you get to hear ladies say "I want a man that would love me more than i love him" but then it poses the question of "What do you measure love with?". None of us are strangers to relationships in which we may have given more than the other person. To ever say that one person should love one more than the other only speaks to a paranoia we have. We have a paranoia of not wanting to experience that hurt again. In that mindset, we formulate defensive schemes like this. Either we think of it ourselves, or our elders lend their two cents on the issue. Regardless of the source, this idea comes from a place where maybe too much thinking is going on. Sometimes it does pay to experience new relationships in the moment. Give new experiences a fair chance. It’s the only way to remain fair to your partner.

For example, if you ask a happily married couple who loved who more, they wouldn’t have an answer. I know what it is to be in love. At no time while being in love did I have a chance to think if I loved my man more than he loved me. It was irrelevant. I simply knew I loved and that I loved as hard as I knew how to. For a woman to say that a man should love her more says to me that she’s pulling back, vice versa.

Hell No: Woman Allows Her Father Walk Her Down The Aisle 6 Years After He Raped Her.

Meet Sharisse T. Smith, a 24-year-old lady who shares her story on why she asked her father to give her away at her wedding, six years after he raped her. 

"I was only a child when my fixation with creating the perfect picture began. I would watch as my father, a freelance photographer, created works of art out of imperfect people through still photos. At thirteen, I’d wanted to have my own portraits taken. One Saturday, while my mother was at work, my father set up the photo shoot in our dining room, took a few pictures of me and called it a success. Then he said extra shots were needed in his bedroom. Then he raped me.

A week later, I told my mother what my father had done to me and she confronted him. He denied it at first but later confessed. The three of us went to see a therapist together and she concludeded that my father was sorry, he would not hurt me again and that keeping our household “stable” was the best way for us to heal. Afraid to be alone, my mother agreed. So we continued to live together as one of the few nuclear African American families in our neighborhood--a pretty picture." CONTINUE

New Music Alert: Latest Nigerian Gospel Party Mix by DJ Ebis

This is a 60 minutes Non-stop mix of Nigerian Gospel songs that can keep a party going. It features works from over 25 artistes. This mix was put together by Ebiseri 'DJ Ebis' Aginighan (UK Based Nigerian Producer) with the aim of showcasing the various gospel artist in Nigeria.

HAPPY NEW MONTH!!!!!

Welcome to the beautiful month of November...I'm so grateful for the grace to be alive this morning and to witness this new month. Looking back from January, I can say "it can be only God". I'm happy cos this month I get to celebrate two wonderful people in my life. So my word for you today, appreciate those around you everyday, tell them how much they mean to you because you'll never know when they just might depart this earth. Also, Love yourself enough to love others!

WTH: Former Brazilian Footballer "Joao Rodrigo Silva" Killed And Beheaded.

Police in Brazil have launched a manhunt after the severed head of a former professional footballer was left on the doorstep of his home. The horrified wife of Joao Rodrigo Silva Santos, 35, made the gruesome discovery as she left the house in Rio de Janeiro for work early yesterday morning. The player’s eyes and tongue had been cut out and his head placed inside one of his own rucksacks, police said. Mr Santos retired from football two years ago after a successful career playing for several teams in Rio de Janeiro, as well as for clubs in Sweden and Honduras. He had recently set up his own business selling health foods and dietary supplements. Police said today that Mr Santos is believed to have been snatched from outside the shop he had opened in the Realengo district of Rio as he closed up at around 7.45pm on Monday. Witnesses said they saw several men bundling him into his car, a Hyundai i30, and speeding off just before midnight, a spokesman said. He was reported missing by his wife at 9pm on Monday.

Pic Of The Day: Beyonce's Mum "Tina Knowles Sizzles At The Angel Ball

Wow, who ever said money aint good should be shot and shot again (I'm not promoting violence o). Anyway, Tina Knowles stole the show last night at the Angel Ball, showing up with a "faaayne" looking date "Richard Lawson" and also looking effortlessly beautiful at the age of 54. Running to the gym...tomorrow.

Scandal: Kerry Washington a.k.a Olivia Pope Is Pregnant!

Congratulations....According to a USWeekly report, Kerry Washington, like her Scandal alter ego Olivia Pope, sure knows how to keep a secret. The 36-year-old actress, who married NFL player Nnamdi Asomugha in a super covert ceremony in June, has yet another surprise on the way — a baby! As the new issue of Us Weekly exclusively reveals, the Scandal star is pregnant with her first child.

“She’s about four months along,” a pal tells Us of Washington. (Thus far, the mom-to-be has kept any hint of a baby bump concealed under roomy dresses.)

This will be the first child for the Emmy-nominated beauty, who married San Francisco 49ers cornerback Asomugha on June 24 in Hailey, Idaho. According to reports, the couple first started dating in the summer of 2012; Washington was previously engaged to actor David Moscow.

Kanye West Thinks Kim Kardashian Is More Influential Than Michelle Obama...

According to an interview reported on ENews, Kanye allegedly compared Kim Kardashian to Michelle Obama. It’s not exactly a surprise that Kanye West is Kim Kardashian’s biggest fan. The 36-year-old musician sang his fiancée’s praises during an On Air With Ryan Seacrest radio interview on Tuesday, Oct. 29. In fact, he’s lobbying to get the “Keeping Up With the Kardashians” star her first Vogue cover.

“There’s no way Kim Kardashian shouldn’t be on the cover of Vogue. She’s like the most intriguing woman right now. She’s got Barbara Walters calling her like everyday,” he said, noting that reality stars have often been overlooked by mainstream fashion magazines. “And collectively, we’re the most influential with clothing. No one is looking at what [Barack Obama] is wearing. Michelle Obama cannot Instagram a [bikini] pic like what my girl Instagrammed the other day.”

When his girl landed the cover of CR Fashion Book, West saw it as a transcendent moment. “[Former French Vogue editor] Carine Roitfeld supports my girl. That’s a breakthrough,” he explained. “There’s a wall of classism that we are breaking through.”West said it’s not his intention to be controversial. “That’s not my concern,” he shared. “My concern is doing God’s work and he’ll work everything else out.”

Nigeria: Crude Oil Revenue Reduces By N189bn

Via VanguardNgr:
Revenue accruable to the Federal Government from crude oil exports dipped by N188.5 billion to N457.2 billion in August 2013, compared to N645.7 billion recorded in July. According to data obtained from the Central Bank of Nigeria, CBN, in its Economic Report for August 2013, the amount received by the government from crude oil in August, is the lowest since the beginning of 2013 and the lowest in a one-year period. Specifically, crude oil revenue in January 2013 stood at N591.4 billion, rising to N647.6 billion in February, before dropping to N595.3 billion in March. Thereafter, it was ups and downs, as the figures rose again in April to N613.4 billion; N641 billion in May, dropping again to N559.4 in June, rose again in July to N645.7 billion, before dropping its lowest to N457.2 billion in August. CONTINUE

Royal Baby: Official Portrait Of Prince George's Christening..

Dressed in a handmade replica of Queen Victoria’s daughter’s christening robe, George was held by mother Kate as the family gathered for a group photograph. The three-month-old sat comfortably in Kate’s lap. It was smiles all round as celebrity photographer Jason Bell, known for images of Johnny Depp and David Beckham, took the photographs. The pictures – released last night – included one of four generations of the royal family. Kate said her son was ‘such a good boy’ on Wednesday.