Monday, 22 October 2012
Who Is To Blame When A Spouse Cheats?
Often, you hear men say "I cheated because she pushed me, with all the nagging and not being sexy" crap. Women also make the same excuse but usually based on lack of attention from their man. Report shows that women do tend to blame themselves more when their spouse cheat than guys do. Particularly when they don't see themselves like they were when they first met their spouse.
Who is really to blame then?! According to Dr Brosh, "if your husband/wife is unfaithful, it's not your fault, no matter what people say because when a spouse decides to cheat, he/she is making a conscious choice to do so. The idea of being pushed into the arms of another man/woman is an expression, not a reality. Relationship expert Charles J.Orlando echoes this sentiment: "Men don't cheat because of who she is; they cheat because of who they're not," he says. "The 'fault' is that the signs of disconnection have been ignored by both parties."
In your opinion, who do you think is to blame when a spouse cheats?