Bela's Corner: Handling Insecurities in Your Relationship

Via Single Black Male

When you find the one you feel like you’ve been waiting for all your life, it’s not surprising that you’d want to hold on tight. Your relationship is something that should be cherished, and you’re likely wary of anything that could harm it or take it away from you. But sometimes, the person in the relationship can be so concerned with keeping the relationship, that they actually begin harming it.

It can also be difficult to stay positive about finding love amid reports about how often people commit infidelity. Just recently, AdamEve.com shared survey results indicating that one in every three people admit to cheating in relationships. So, again, how does one stay positive here? But then there’s also this question: At what point do normal insecurities become too much?Continue

Ciara Attacked in Paris...

According to TMZ, the guy who attacked Kim Kardashian in Paris last week has struck again -- this time Ciara was his victim -- and Paris cops still think it's a stupid, nothing offense and they aren't taking action.

Vitalii Sediuk was standing outside the Valentino fashion show wearing a trench coat, and as Ciara passed him he lost the coat and hugged her hard, wearing a thong.

Sediuk had something written on his leg referencing a USA ban ... he's been barred from red carpets in the States following his attack on Brad Pitt.

We reached out to Paris cops to see if they'd now take action against Sediuk, but they said they have no plans ... they say it's not important enough to warrant their attention.

Laissez-faire!Continue to view pix..

New Movie Alert: Kunle Afolayan's "October 1"

The film “October 1’’, premiered on Sept. 28, but it will be officially released for the Nigerian Cinemas and Theaters on the 1st of October. The movie was written by Tunde Babalola, produced and directed by Kunle Afolayan, and it talks about Nigeria on the verge of independence from British colonial rule. This masterpiece, was reportedly made with over N200 million and was shot in Lagos and Ondo states for over forty days, after four months on pre-production.

You Need More People: Pst Ayo Oritsejafor Feigns Ignorance of $9.3 Arms Deal

I really don't know how you expect us to believe this though...The President of the Christian Association of Nigeria, CAN, Pastor Ayo Oritsejafor, yesterday for the first time spoke on the controversial $9.3m cash allegedly smuggled into South Africa by two Nigerians and an Israeli using his private jet. The money which has been confiscated by a South African court was meant for the purchase of arms for the Nigerian Intelligence Services. This is just as the #BringBackOurGirls# campaign group, has said it will soon drag the CAN president and the Federal Government to court over the money.

Following the use of his aircraft to convey the money which was not declared in South Africa until immigration officials discovered it, the CAN president was linked to the arms deal with critics condemning his role in the arms deal. CONTINUE

Bela's Corner: Overcoming Relationship Mistakes

Relationships are a tricky thing, and getting into them can be scary if you don't have any guidance. Lucky for you, I've made plenty of relationship mistakes in my life that we both can learn from;

1. Don't be embarrassed if you like someone and they don't like you back.

When you hit middle school or high school, and you start to have crushes on people, don't worry about trying to hide your feelings or wonder if you're cool enough to like the person you like. If you like someone, it's OK to show it. Having warm feelings for someone is a gift, one that is meant to be offered to the person you have the feelings for. If it turns out that they don't feel the same way, that's OK. Hopefully they'll express that kindly, but even if they're jerks about it, don't take it personally. There's nothing wrong with sharing a little bit of your heart's love with somebody. If they don't like you back, someone will. Don't take that kind of rejection as a sign that there's something wrong with you or that you're not good enough. Just view it as a simple compatability issue and move on with grace.

2. Don't lose your virginity too soon (or for the wrong reasons).

Having sex with the right partner at the right time for the right reasons is a wonderfully positive, fun experience. However, there isn't a human being alive who hasn't had at least one negative sexual experience, and that's because sex is a very intimate act people engage in while highly vulnerable. It's a delicate thing. So before you decide you want to go all the way with someone, make sure you're doing it for the right reasons, and that you feel truly ready. You might be ready to have sex if you feel safe, secure and loved in a relationship, if you're physically and emotionally mature enough to

Are You Feeling This Look: Kim Kardashian In Givenchy

Kim, Kanye and their baby North wore an all black assemble to the Givenchy (Gee-von-chi) Show in Paris. Kim wore a lace jumpsuit and her baby matched her with a sheer shirt. Would you rock this?